The preferred marriage is with a second cousin of any kind, provided it was not across a rank boundary.
All Photos are by Eduine Kusai
Tanda Tuneang ( Bethrothal gift):
Tanda Tuneang adet 7 Betirih ( 5 Pikoul)
Jegateng padai lubeang segamut- 5 1/3 pounds ( 2.419 kg) of rice in a brassware
Jalak benyoh tubok jagem dagen bukur- A fist size sprouted coconut on a deep brass plate
Tuduong tutup biasa- A normal conical cover for the sprouted coconut.
Jesai iseang dagen kapuran- A ring weights 1/10 Oz of Gold ( about 3g of gold) inside a small brass container.
The Dowry (Maih Kawin)
It must be given a day before the wedding. The dowry consists of:
Penyekap- Given to the virgin and unmarried future Bride:
Penyekab adet 7 Betirih
1 kaheh- another type of keris
5 amaih maih- 5/10 Oz of gold ( 15g of gold) in form of a bracelet.
1 Sipir- a brass plate
1 Peresak rakep biasa- A handkerchief
Berian- The basic dowry in accordance with the customary law.
5 Pikoul- 5 Picul of Brassware ( equivalent to 5*RM25 = RM125)
Adet Menuga- Transportation expense for the bridegroom to the Bride's house.
1 Pikoul of Brassware ( equivalent to RM25)
Adet Mebin- Gift for the bridegroom before entering the bride's house
1 Pikoul of Brassware (equivalent of RM25) and an earthward jars called kanan seni ( equivalent of RM15).
Pakan- Monetary Gift for the Bride's parents or custodians. The value is decided by the bride herself.
Gifts during the wedding ceremony at the bride's house.
A piece of brocade textile for the bridegroom called Sebuhuong Tanjing Sarek.
Adet Pahek- Gift for the bride before entering the bridegroom's house. Adet Pahek consists of :
a) Pahek Mukad:
1 amaih maih- 1/10 Oz of Gold ( equivalent to RM10)
5 alak manik Tilak nebed jahak bibek kuali- 7 piece of "Tilak" beads tied with bibek kuali.
1 Picul Brassware from the adet menage.
b) Pahek Atap
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c) Pahek Id
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d) Pahek Keman
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Adet petudui- Gift for the wedding night.
3 alak tulei- 3 piece of dammar gum
Bagou tulei- a brassware for the dammar gum
Kilak- a basket
a spear to cut the dammar gum
1 Terusoung- a conical water bucket made of sago palm frond-Ukap balau).
adat betunang 12 pikoul ?
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately i have no information on that since 12 Pikoul is perabangan and they are malay sarawaks not Melanau purely. The highest Melanau Pure Noble Rank is the 9 Pikoul. Above than that belongs to the Sarawak Malay Custom.
ReplyDeleteSome village also have 12 Pikoul. From my understanding this 12 Pikoul is actualy 9 Pikoul in term of Adet.
What is the difference between Melanau wedding b4 70s until late 90s????
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